A few years back vision boards were the rage. Did anyone make one? I remember seeing posts on Pinterest about various bulletin board decorations, and this time of year (or in a few weeks when the holidays are behind us and the thoughts of New Year's resolutions are coming up) is when this is a natural conversation topic.
Anyone who knows me knows that I try to be ahead of things. So thinking about 2021 before the holidays are behind us should be no surprise to anyone.
Oprah, on her 2020 tour (which I was lucky enough to attend) spoke about goal setting, and crafting the realistic and necessary steps to achieve one’s goal.
Oprah (I really mean her team) sends frequent text messages to attendees. The latest message read, “How many times do you say “yes” when you really mean “no”? What boundary can you add today to help set you up for success… This time of year, one of the first things we often de-prioritize is taking care of ourselves.”
So why not get a head start on thinking about what you want from 2021 and beyond. Pause a moment to think about boundaries. There are no holiday parties this year, and while everyone will still celebrate, hopefully the holidays will feel less stressful. You do not need to say yes to every Zoom invite. You do not need to compete with other’s perfect Instagram holiday posts. You can say no. .
Are there boundaries that you need to set with yourself, with your family, with your friends, to help you be more successful? Are there boundaries that you need to set in order to take care of yourself properly?
The pandemic will be here, likely, for at least the first half of 2021, even as (yeah!) our essential workers in the US begin to receive the vaccination, with more of our nation to receive it shortly.
What do you need?
What does your day look like?
Are you the captain of your boat? Or are you plugging holes with chewing gum every time a new leak springs while someone else tells you what to do (and is causing more holes in your boat)!
At this point, we know what pandemic life looks like. What do you need to ride this wave out?
How will you bet on yourself? Believing in yourself, will bring you personal joy, and will make you better for those around you. By saying “no” to some things you might be saying yes to your future.
We must do everything with intention if we want to be successful. So it helps to examine what hasn’t worked in order to find approaches that will work. What comes next for you?